Dating a friend of your ex

15-Jun-2017 16:19 by 10 Comments

Dating a friend of your ex

You convince yourself that no other man on the planet has the same qualities as him and thus, you have two choices: get him back or settle for someone who will never measure up. You won’t find someone with his exact qualities…will find someone even better and more compatible with you. Love is about realistically seeing who the other person is, flaws and all, and appreciating the entire picture.

You won’t spend sleepless nights pining for that old job, wondering what went wrong and what else you could have done.

Whether it’s your decision to make the excision or not, there will suddenly be a void and you may feel unbalanced as you try to cope without the thing that was once there to fuel you. At first you think you’ll never be able to make it through the day without your “fix.” It will definitely be hard at first, but when you push past the initial discomfort, you will be able to function just as well, or even better, than before!

When you go through a breakup, you may be missing the feeling of being loved and cared for.

Let’s say you had a job where you felt perpetually stressed, anxious, and miserable.

You put in all you could, even if it came at the expense of your ego and sometimes, your sanity. Yes, being unemployed is scary so at first you’ll feel upset and worried, but you will also probably feel relieved.

His approval makes you feel OK…it makes you feel “good enough,” at least temporarily.

Since he gives you something you need so desperately, you become terrified of losing him, and then the panic sets in…what if he loses interest? You let him get away with as much bad behavior as he wants because you’re too afraid to call him out and risk losing him.Many people make the mistake of thinking that the reason they’re so sad after a breakup is because they genuinely miss their former partner.This is true to an extent, but it’s far from the whole picture.You miss the way he made you feel more than who he actually is.There is almost always a period of withdrawal after an important element of our life is gone.To fill this empty space, surround yourself with people who genuinely care about you and love you for who you are.