Dating an occasional pot smoker
Dating an occasional pot smoker - amor a vida 25 09 online dating
He also told me that he would be willing to not smoke at certain times of the day if I just told him when.I never took him up on that offer though because to me it was just a slap in the face--you know I don't like you smoking ANY time, so don't make it seem like you're doing me a favor by leaving an open-ended offer that you probably wouldn't follow through with anyway. Anyway, I am just now realizing that a big part of why it bothered me so much was that he was choosing it over me.
He even opens the cigarette and mixes it with weed to make a joint.My boyfriend, who I love very much, is addicted to marijuana.I have an overall acceptance of weed - I think it's perfectly acceptable to enjoy it and smoke a few times a week.I thought when I moved to be with him we would get our own house, get married and live happily ever after.8 months later he still lives with his mother and doesn't seem to have any intentions on leaving.It feels like he chooses weed over me and our relationship.
We have talked a lot about this, and he knows that I hate his addiction and don't want him to be high around me (at least not as often), yet he hasn't changed at all. I feel like I can't depend on him to do anything, because if someone wants to smoke with him or if he would rather go home to smoke weed, he won't follow through with our plans or what he had to get done because weed takes priority over all. Try to find a support group near you - either Al-Anon, or Narc-Anon, or even Co DA.Although we are now separated, life up until that point consisted of him smoking as soon as he woke up, as soon as he got home, and for the remainder of the night.He would also smoke all weekend, every weekend and play videogames non-stop, like your boyfriend.If I had known he was a cig smoker I would have never even given him the time or day.But I was already in loved with him so I overlooked it and continued with the relationship....(wrong decision)Now, about a year and a half of having a long distance friendship we started to talk about marriage, I decided to move to his state and I did.In the end, I didn't necessarily give him an ultimatium, but I asked if he was choosing pot over our marriage, and he couldn't really answer me. I hope that your Thanksgiving goes well and that you are able to find clarity in this situation. I kept my husband's addiction a secret for 12 years and am wishing I had talked with others about it sooner. Fast forward 6 years after that relationship ended I have met this great guy.