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Saying “boo fucking hoo” about it is deeply offensive. Check out our Resources section, for listings of feminist blogs, campaigns, feminist networks in the UK, mailing lists, international and national websites and charities of interest.Thin privilege is what you get when your body type happens to fit in with the current societal standards: people don’t stare (for the wrong reasons) when you walk past, you never struggle to find a size that fits you in clothing stores, and all you have to do to get what the magazines call “bikini body ready” is to put on a bikini.
If a statement is made with hate or contempt about one’s body, it is hard not to internalise that as shame, particularly when it happens a lot, and in repetitive terms.
We live in a fatphobic society, where the mere thought of gaining a few kilograms has some people doing two hour sessions on the treadmill as “punishment” for eating a Bar-One. Because the belief is that being fat in a world that hates fat will lead to discrimination, ridicule and ostracism.
Fatphobia stems from the fact that we have all, at some point or another, considered fat to be synonymous with ugly and or lazy.
– is that *all human beings* are respected as individuals and allowed to tell their own stories.
Moving away from a model of health or aspiration or wellbeing as represented by a narrow range of body types and characteristics, and towards a plurality of bodies, each seen and accepted on their own terms.
On fatphobia, thin privilege, ‘skinny shaming’, and people’s right to subjective experience whatever their body size Bethany from Arched Eyebrow is a force for good in the world.
She’s creative, interesting, direct and unashamed in a lot of good ways. But I found her recent post entitled Thin Shaming Isn’t Real problematic, because it essentially denies people the right to their subjective experience based on their body size.That doesn’t erase the much greater rhetorical punishment meted out to fat people – every thin person I spoke to underlined the fact that undoubtedly fat people have it much worse than thin people in contemporary culture – but nevertheless they had experienced body shame.It is entirely possible for a thin woman to be made to feel that her body is wrong and unacceptable because it doesn’t have curves, because it doesn’t look feminine enough, because it doesn’t look smooth and sleek but knobbly and awkward.Denying the validity of some people’s experience because of their body type is not going to help create that world. An extended version of this article is up at my blog, A Can Opener in a Worm Factory: sex, food, subjectivities. I have experienced open hostility from fat people, accusations of having an eating disorder, and having whatever I say about negative experiences met with “What would you know when you look like that” for a body type I have no control over.This erases you from so many discussions and silences your opinions and your feelings. You would hope that someone exposed to fat shaming should be able to listen when they’re being told that and not invalidate the other person’s pain.Fat people are subject to structural oppression in ways thin people are not – the obesity register, employment discrimination – and as this article makes clear, Bethany is right that thin shaming and fat shaming are not structurally, socially or culturally equivalent.